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From Call Centre to Cantab: Practical Etiquette Tips for First-Generation Students Visiting Elite Cities

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2026-02-28

10 min read

A practical etiquette guide for first‑gen visitors to elite university towns — inspired by Jade Franks. Dress, talk, eat and save smartly in Cantab culture.

First‑gen in a college town: the honest truth — and a map to get you through

Arriving in an elite academic town for the first time can feel like stepping into a language you half‑know. You hear clothes as conversation, lawns as protocols and accents as invisible tests. If you’re the first in your family to visit a university city — a true first‑generation traveler — you’re not only navigating geography; you’re navigating social codes. That anxiety is real, and it’s why Jade Franks’ story matters: she turned raw culture shock into a play and a practical guide for anyone learning how to belong without losing themselves.

Why Jade Franks’ story is the starting point — and what it teaches you

Jade Franks, a 20‑year‑old from Liverpool, left a call centre job for Cambridge and discovered a world of unexpected rules — sweaters tied around shoulders, muted night‑out looks, and classmates who misread her accent as a punchline. Her one‑woman show, Eat the Rich (but maybe not me mates x), exposed the awkwardness of social mobility and offered a resilient roadmap for blending confidence with curiosity. The line she wrote that resonates with thousands is blunt and true:

“If there’s one thing worse than classism … it’s FOMO.” — Jade Franks

That fear of missing out — on belonging, on cultural fluency, on the rituals of elite campuses — is what coaches and travel editors call a practical pain point. This article uses Jade’s experience to offer a field guide: what to wear, what to say, how to eat, and how to keep money in your pocket while still taking part.

The quick essentials (read first, breathe easy)

Mindset: curiosity beats mimicry. You don’t need to perform privilege; you need to be present and polite.
Practical kit: one versatile blazer, comfortable shoes for cobblestones, a reusable water bottle, and a compact umbrella.
Money move: download student‑friendly apps (2026 trend: many towns now accept QR student passes) and carry a contactless card with low foreign transaction fees.
Speak up plan: have three confident conversation openers and one personal story — honest, brief, and proud.

Before you go: prep that lowers the friction

Research but don’t overcorrect

Learn the local rhythms: when college meals happen, what public transport to expect, and which cafés are cash‑friendly. By late 2025 universities increased outreach and created digital orientation hubs — in 2026 many towns have centralized visitor pages. Use them for calendars and dress guidance but don’t let them dictate your identity.

Pack intentionally

Layerable clothing: A neutral blazer, jumper, chinos or dark jeans, and a simple dress/scarf combo for events. You’ll fit in without wearing a costume.
Shoes: Comfortable and smart. Think clean leather sneakers or brogues rather than heels for long days.
Accessories: A lightweight tote, a phone charger, and a timetable for events you plan to attend.

Dress codes decoded: how to be comfortable and culturally fluent

Academic towns have many subcultures: postgraduate academics, sports teams, drama kids, and local market traders. Recognize the scene before you adopt a uniform. A few rules of thumb:

Casual smart>formal costume: Most colleges trend towards neat casual — a jumper over a shirt, a tidy coat, no loud logos. Look tidy, not theatrical.
Gowns: Formal hall or matriculation may expect academic gowns. Don’t panic — colleges often lend gowns to visitors or keep a coat‑room wardrobe for hire.
Punting or walks: Waterproof layers and flat shoes — punts are romantic but wet; avoid open‑toed shoes.
Night out: Many students notably keep it low‑key in elite towns. Nice jeans and a button‑up will get you into most venues.

Being from a different background is an asset, not a deficit. Use curiosity and a few tactical lines to move from outsider to participant.

Openers that work

“I’m from [hometown]. What’s your favourite place here?” — redirects attention and invites tips.
“I’m trying to learn the best local food — where should I try next?” — people love recommending food.
“What made you choose this college/subject?” — steer away from wealth assumptions and toward motivations.

Topics to tread carefully

Avoid assumptions about family wealth or private schooling.
Don’t perform apologetic humour that undercuts your competence.
Politics and estate gossip can be traps — listen more than you speak when such topics arise.

Food etiquette: halls, pubs, cafes and market stalls

Food is social currency in student towns. Whether you’re eating a formal college meal or grabbing a budget lunch, small acts of dining etiquette go a long way.

Formal hall basics

Arrive on time. Many halls have fixed sit‑down times.
Follow the serving order — wait for a host or the person who invited you.
Keep your phone tucked away. Formal halls are analogue zones.
If there’s a gown rule, ask politely where to borrow one. Colleges expect visitors and will help.

Pubs, cafés and market stalls

Pubs: Order at the bar in smaller towns. If you’re unfamiliar, watch and follow local cues — do people buy rounds or individual drinks?
Cafés: Tip culture varies. In many UK student towns tipping is modest; leave a small amount or round up on cards.
Markets: Perfect for budget, seasonal food. Bring small change in case vendors don’t take cards.

Budget strategies that don’t feel stingy

Being frugal in an elite town is smart, not shameful. Recent trends in 2025–26 show more community‑run food banks, campus kitchen cooperatives, and student discount apps that cover theatre, museums, and transport. Here are practical tips:

Use student and local loyalty apps: Many towns now link ID to QR passes offering discounts at bookstores, theatres and cafés.
Eat like a student: College canteens often offer wholesome meals at subsidized prices in the evenings.
Bring basics: A small spice kit or a jar of coffee can save money and make shared cooking more social.
Time your visits: Museum free‑entry days and late‑night student rates cut costs.

Cambridge‑specific tips (Cantab culture without the mystique)

For towns like Cambridge — where people call graduates Cantabs (short for Cantabrigiensis) — a few local habits are worth learning:

Punting: Group punting can be expensive; find student group punts or shared tours to split cost. If you’re punted by a pro, accept tips in cash (small notes are ideal).
College lawns and rituals: Respect “no‑access” signs and turf rules — stepping on the wrong lawn can be a faux‑pas.
Library etiquette: In old libraries silence is strict. Use study rooms or campus cafés for louder study sessions.
Formal halls: RSVP early. Check whether a gown is required or provided; many colleges have a visitor loan system.

Language, accent and confidence — owning your voice

One of the hardest realities Jade faced was accent prejudice. Here’s how to handle it with dignity:

Own your accent: Your voice signals where you’re from — that’s cultural capital. Do not code‑switch to erase yourself unless that choice is strategic for safety or comfort.
Correct misunderstandings briefly: If someone misinterprets a word, correct it kindly and move on. Lengthy explanations often make conversations awkward.
Use humour selectively: Self‑deprecating lines can defuse tension, but avoid undermining your intelligence.

When you feel othered: practical coping steps

Not all awkward moments are avoidable. Prepare these tactics in advance:

Exit lines: Have a few polite exit phrases: “I need to grab my bike” or “I promised to check in with a friend.”
Identify allies: Find staff in student services, outreach officers, or societies who have run first‑gen meetups.
Document and report: If you face outright discrimination, take screenshots, note details and report to college welfare teams — universities are increasingly responsive post‑2024 reforms.

Balancing integration and authenticity

Integration doesn’t require assimilation. You can learn codes of elite towns while staying true to your history. Think of it as bilingualism: one language is your home identity, the other is the social grammar of campus life. Switch freely — your background gives you a distinct lens and real cultural capital.

Technology and 2026 trends that make visiting easier

Late 2025 and early 2026 brought practical upgrades across student towns:

Digital orientation hubs: Colleges now use AI‑curated visitor plans — enter your interests and dietary needs and get a 24‑hour itinerary.
QR student passes: Linked to university IDs, they unlock local discounts and late‑night transit passes.
Micro‑experiences: Short, paid experiences (90 minutes) let visitors sample formal halls, labs, or theatre rehearsals — useful for time‑limited visits.
Community co‑ops: Shared kitchens and community fridges increased across university towns as a cost‑saving and sustainability measure.

Safety, wellbeing and practical contacts

Visiting a new town can strain mental wellbeing. Prepare a small support list:

Student union or outreach officer contact
Local NHS or campus health extension hours
Emergency numbers and safe‑ride schemes (many towns have late‑night safe transport or buddy systems)
Peer networks: societies for first‑generation students are growing; search “first‑gen society” plus the town name.

Case study: What Jade might have done differently — practical takeaways

From the media coverage of Jade’s experience and performances (Edinburgh Fringe 2025 coverage included glowing reviews), we can reverse engineer a smarter approach she (and you) could use:

Before arrival: Contact outreach or admissions to ask about visitor loans for gowns, formal hall etiquette, and cheap meal slots.
Early social moves: Join one or two student societies in the first week — societies are designed to onboard new members and remove social friction.
Work and study balance: If working part‑time, map shifts to study blocks and social hours so you aren’t always “on” at work during peak campus social time.
Tell your story selectively: Use your background as a bridge — “Where I grew up, we do X” invites exchange rather than defence.

Quick checklist before you leave home

Download the town’s visitor and student apps; set up contactless payment options.
Pack a neutral blazer, waterproof shoes, and a small cash reserve.
Bookmark student union, outreach, and welfare pages.
Prepare three conversation openers and a 30‑second personal story.
Identify one society or small group to join in your first week.

Final thoughts: belonging is learned, not inherited

Jade Franks turned discomfort into a script and, ultimately, into agency. The lesson for first‑generation travelers visiting elite academic towns is practical: you don’t need to vanish into a new culture to be accepted. You need to learn a few local rules, carry a few reliable items, open conversations with curiosity, and protect your wellbeing.

Actionable takeaways — your 48‑hour plan

Hour 0–3: Arrive, check into accommodation, find nearest grocery and student union. Download local apps and QR student pass if eligible.
Hour 3–24: Do one low‑cost cultural thing (market, free museum) and one social thing (join a society meet or pub quiz).
Day 2: Attend a campus tour, try a college canteen meal, and identify one mentor (outreach officer or a society leader).

Want a living guide?

We update a living checklist for first‑generation visitors to UK university towns every quarter, reflecting new 2026 offerings like micro‑experiences and QR discount passes. Subscribe to our guide and get downloadable packing lists, local contact templates, and a short script you can use when someone asks “Where are you from?”

Call to action

If you’re planning a first visit to a Cantab town or any elite academic hub, start with one small step today: reach out to the town’s outreach office or a student society and ask about visitor loans, discounts, and first‑gen meetups. If you’d like, share your trip details with us — we’ll send a tailored 48‑hour plan and a short etiquette cheat sheet based on the town you’re visiting.

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